Trash the ‘Good’ labels Moms

Blog by Candice Luck

A label identifies an object, however, it is not the object. As a Mother, we have several labels. We are a wife/partner, a daughter, a sister, a career woman, a friend, maybe even an ex of sorts. These are all the different parts of who we are. However, none of these completely define us. They are just a small aspect but are not actually us at all.

Why then do we allow ourselves to get fixated and let these labels often restrict us?

Labels are useful and serve a purpose, providing information and categorizing items. We rely on them to give clarity. However, we can tend to limit and compartmentalize ourselves too much with these extra personal tags we take on.

My aim with this article is to make you aware of your own labels and realize you are more than all of these. Don’t let these labels stop you from being bigger and doing more in your life. Please stop giving them so much power over you or using them as excuses.

Beneath the labels lies your incredible True Self. It is way more magnificent than you can imagine. It’s that deep part that you get glimpses of, perhaps during meditation or when out in nature, saying your prayers. Where you connect and feel that peaceful stillness within. The inner knowing part of yourself that is always present.

And a big one we definitely need to delete and erase is the label: GOOD. For many generations, we get conditioned and told from a little girl to be good. But good has become a trap or even I say, a cage for many of us. Good is just in between, it is enough, it is not bad, it is not amazing! It has prevented many people from being incredible, brave, extraordinary, super-intelligent, empowered. Please right now, make a promise, to stop using the word good especially with your children.

There are tons of better labels to use: outstanding, marvellous, sensational, brilliant, resourceful, imaginative, prolific, ingenious, charming, fascinating, exquisite, dazzling.

FUN TIP: Create your own Witty Word Jar (this has literally just popped into my mind as I was typing this out). Pick a variety of empowering descriptive words, like the above. Every week each family member gets to pick an awesome word and then everyone has to try to use that word 3 times that week to describe that person.

Example: Wow, Emily your thinking is innovative. Adam, you are very resourceful. Dad is marvellous at his job.

How delicious are those words? Just saying them lights me up inside. Imagine using these delightful labels instead. Remembering the words we tell ourselves and our loved ones are so powerful. Getting our children to attach to these wonderful words instead of just ‘good’ is going to program their brains with loads more natural awesome-ness.

Back to you amazing Mamma, I really want you to know that you are a phenomenal, radiant being with your own unique gift to share with the world. Please detach from the old boring labels and tune in to who you really are. Let your true inner essence light up!

Make up your own new original label like these more modern ones that are combining and re-defining! Example: Mompreneur and BossMoms. Yes, you can be both. How about MarvelMom or MomGenious.

What are you waiting for? Get creative, ‘rebrand’ yourself today with a new, exquisite, true trademark!